Friends

Just recently a friend of mine said that he was so lonely cos his buddy was going to somewhere to study and she felt a bit lonely.. made me think a bit.

Made me recall the time when i just entered uni... army... JC... sec sch... you tend to ask, where are your friends from the previous institution... after a few years with these people i feel that some bonds have formed between us.. and with a change of place and environment they just "poofed" and went on to lead their separate lives.

I came into new locations almost alone. Well entering uni i had edwin as my only classmate from JC, entering JC... no one for the first three months then 2 girls ruoyun and bengli in the same class (though we didn't really talk much)... entering army... no one at all (whos pes e anyway??) and secondary school... two guys walter and wei ting. So as you see, i sort of "shed" off all my previously formed relationships after i leave for a new place to study / work. It is not a very good choice, but i've got no options.. its kinda forced on me.

It's like a sustainable relationship can still be maintained for the first 3 months or so, but then we really go separate ways.

The jokes don't seem as funny.

We no longer laugh and smile at each other as we previously did. Sad... :(

Especially army... when the gals when on to university and lead totally different lives... when the greatest priority is getting a boyfriend, getting a good CAP, and partying and leading the best of their lives, the only thing we have on our army boys' minds is stuff like when is the next parade, when is my POP, when do i ORD. and of course, when is the next off that i can take, and when the freak are the weekends.

I really lost contact with alot of my JC friends when they went to army... leo went to OCS, ws went to sispec and stayed in tekong for the rest of his army life. Culture was so different, every time we went out we would talk non-stop about GPMGs, military competence tests, IPPTs, etc. basically a slew of other acronyms that left me guessing non-stop.

The gals experienced a more drastic change, from initially being able to withstand a few lines of our crap on msn to... being totally unresponsive. Yes, you girls are that 'orrible. One reason i can think of: you lavish all your time on your new-found boyfriends. Anyway, you don't know what we're talking about, you dunno what's a SIT (?) test, you don't have to take IPPT, your weekends are never burnt. And we dunno what the hell is CAP, which profs to make fun of, or which hunks are there in town to admire at.

Yes. we live in two different worlds. Sad. I guess sometimes that's why they say it's hard to maintain a relationship with someone who is an NSF. Seen it, heard of it. Tried, cried.

Sometimes, i'd wish to salvage all these long-lost relationships. Friendster? lame way... i'd wish we can just get together with all the people i know and maybe say hi or talk a few lines and find out what they are doing now, be they from primary sch, sec sch, JC, army.

Something tells me that that would not be so readily done... some things are like the pages of history, once turned it can never be turned back.